Annette Faamausili, January 3 2020

Parents..It's OK To Ask For Help

It’s OK to ask for help. If you’ve questioned what you are doing, or felt overwhelmed by the sheer responsibility of raising kids, then this blog is for you...

Modern parenting is nothing like parenting of the past.

There is so much pressure and the expectation to get everything right.

It is easy to feel judged and to question your decisions.

You are not alone… almost every parent will struggle with this feeling at some point during the 18 or so years you are on the job!

I am here to say that it is OK to ask for help.

This is a topic that is very dear to me after seeing so many parents struggling through their journey.

So, if you have ever questioned what you are doing, or felt overwhelmed by the sheer responsibility of raising little humans, then this blog is for you...

It’s OK To Ask For Help

I am writing this blog from my heart. It is for all of the sleep deprived families I have encountered and helped over the years, and the ones I am still to meet.

So many of you are ravaged by the hideousness of sleep deprivation and the sense of helplessness and overwhelm that it brings. So, I am telling you... it’s OK to ask for help.

This is what I see and encounter on a daily basis and I want to share it with you. We live in a fast changing world where ‘the village’ is no longer there to support us.

Social media now encompasses the widening gap that the extended family once filled. Instead of love and everlasting support, we are greeted with a world full of filtered images depicting perfect lives. Instead of feeling supported, you feel subtly undermined and inadequate.

There is also mountains of meaningful information at our fingertips. While helpful, it can also unintentionally dull our maternal intuition.

You are left feeling overwhelmed and alone...

An Open Letter To Modern Families

To the mum who cries the moment her baby wakes up from the shortest nap ( which took an hour to settle for)...... it’s OK to ask for help.

To the dad who dreads coming home from work for what he finds there leaves him feeling helpless and confused…… it’s OK to ask for help

To the Grandmother watching over her daughter, knowing she has lost the way and is fearful of this parenting journey…… it’s OK to ask for help.

To the mum whose stomach lurches and twists each time her baby wakes up…... it’s OK to ask for help.

To the dad who lies awake at night listening to his wife’s cries from another room…... it’s OK to ask for help.

To the mum who tried to co-sleep with her baby in the belief they would both get better sleep, but hated it…… it’s OK to ask for help.

To the mum who backed into the garage door twice in one week because she’s so tired…… it’s OK to ask for help.

To the mum who pretends to her friends she's coping just fine for fear of being judged..........it's OK to ask for help. 

These feelings are very normal and are felt by thousands of parents every day.

The key thing to understand is that you don’t have to suffer through those feelings alone. Help is out there and often it starts with the right amount of rest for the whole family.

So, to every parent who told me, ‘I wish we had got your help sooner’...... you did the right thing, you asked for help.

The Rise Of The Opinion

The rise of social media has given everybody the opportunity to voice their opinions on anything and everything. But, there is no hotter topic than parenting! Many people think that their way of parenting is the best way and are ready to tell that to the world.

But, the thing is, we are all different. If we all have different personalities, then we are certainly going to have different parenting styles!

So, if you are one of those families who are lucky enough to not need help, don’t judge others that do. No one is asking to be judged, even if they do choose to do things a little differently!

Instead of jumping to judgement, we should all embody the village mentality of support.

What Can You Do?

If you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed or frustrated, then simply reach out and ask for help. It could be from your spouse, your family, your friends, or someone else.

If your baby’s lack of sleep is negatively impacting your emotional and mental well being, then get in touch with me here at Serene Sleep. We fully support and encourage parents to ask for help when they need it.

Our gentle and holistic sleep solutions are just what you need to help optimise your little one's sleeping potential and empower and support you along the way.

We have a range of sleep packages to suit your family's needs....from in home consultations, to phone and Skype consultations. We'll help you find your way to a peaceful nights sleep.  Drop us a line today and start your journey towards better sleep!


Written by

Annette Faamausili

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